Five Fast Facts About Responsibility

  1. Saying “we need to change” rather than “I need to change” diminishes our own responsibility for making things better.
  2. Taking responsibility requires that we not offer “extenuating circumstances” as the reason for our unacceptable behavior.
  3. Short term guilt is a useful message from ourselves to ourselves telling us to stop doing something we know is wrong. Long term guilt means we are ignoring the message.
  4. A promise is more powerful than a guarantee: A guarantee says, “I’ll fix it if it breaks;” a promise says, “It will never break.”
  5. Anger is always unwarranted-even when directed at someone who’s angry at us.